THE FOUNDAMENTAL PURPOSE OF RELATIONSHIP

Relationship is an act of relating with one person or a group of people. It simply means 'connection' or interaction among people in the society. 

        When we talk about relationship, a large number of people think and focus on marital or romantic relationship between just a man and a woman, if that is the case, what is the name of what exist between a mother and her children, a landlord and his tenants? Is there not any connection between the market women and the one who goes to buy something from them? We believe that the 'soul' of relationship is communication. Right? The question now is that, is it only two people involved in romantic relationship that communicate? No.

      Friends communicate, a boss communicates with his employees, a couple communicate with people around them, children communicate with their parents. All of these communications are what we call in a whole, relationship. Not necessarily between a man and a woman, in as much as you communicate with someone, a relationship is existing already, the only thing is that, the kind of relationship determines the kind of communication.

      If it is truly all about romance, what happens to the couple when they depart for work in the morning, do they seal up their mouths till they are back in the evening? Of course that is not possible. We need to understand that our daily interactions with people in our various societies is what we call relationship.

      The concept of relationship needs to be redefined to us in this generation, we have all neglected the larger part of relationship and focus on one part of it, therefore we treat other people in the society as animals which do not worth our connection.

       A sincere, caring and loyal husband slapped a waiter at the restaurant. Ten years later when the waiter saw him, she immediately flashed back to the incidence. Sincerely, this man was  good to his wife, communicated well, dedicated time at home for the woman and all of that, but he abused a waiter because he felt nothing existed between them as a relationship.

Ten years later, they met in an office and she remembered as an evidence that it was an interactive session, the waiter remembered how she mistakingly poured juice on his shoe and how he responded with a hot slap on her face. You know, the man could be nice to this strange girl as he was to his wife, but because he could not realize the value of relating with her, he thought there is no reason to respect her, he abused the relationship between them.

      You see, in this our generation, the issue is that, selfishness has eaten us so deep that we only cater and care for what and who benefits us, and that's not the purpose of relationship from the beginning. For everything God created, he created them with and for purpose. 

      Why Relationship? What the fundamental Purposesl (Reasons) of Relationship?

Fundamental means the basic, foundation, the source. The foundational purpose of relationship is the reason why God established relationship on Earth.

     For every cause there is a purpose, nothing happens for nothing especially in the program of God, it is now our work as human beings to find out the purpose, because when the purpose of a thing is not known(defined, revealed), abuse is inevitable.

       However, in  the beginning, when God created the first human being, Adam. God perceived a hollow in him, God perceived he could not continue living alone, because no matter how Adam tried to relate with the animals, he could not find fulfillment. Because God has already defined the purpose or duty of man on all other creature, nothing could fit his own nature among them all. And God said, It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him an HELP MEET for him (Genesis 2vs18). In other words, it is not good for this man to always walk around this garden, he needs someone he can talk to, he needs someone that will understand his feelings, he needs someone who will cater for him if he hurt his foot, he needs someone who will value his nature, all of these needs animals and all other creature could not understand, but an HELP MEET will understand.

      All of that still seem like marriage institution right? Let's move on. After that God created an HELP MEET for Adam, He brought the new creation to him, immediately there was a sensation in him that, this nature is not an animal, she resembles me, I can feel her touch in my body, and he said " this  is now the bone of my bones, and flesh of my fresh..." He said, God now you're talking, this is someone just like me who I can relate with, she hears and understands my words. God replied and said to Abraham, yes it is true that she is now your mate, but that is not the end of the matter, I have works and purpose for her creation.

     "And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful and MULTIPLY and replenish the Earth and subdue it..." (Genesis 1vs26). God said, now that I have given you a mate, you need to multiply, give birth to another kind of you and another kind of you will give birth and you will fill the earth. Now this is where we are going, if only Adam and Eve should relate, then there is no need for them to be fruitful biologically, all they need to do is just sport arround the garden and care for it,but no. God has a purpose.

       The Woman is to bear fruit, the seeds of that woman are the people on the earth and  God wants the family of the earth(the seeds of the Woman) to relate and live equally as one, in Unity. God wants fruitfulness upon the earth which can not be achieved in segregation, God wants smiles on every faces, just as there was smiles on Adam's face after he saw Eve. Wait o, if relationship only affects the Man and the Woman, what happens to their children? What happens to their grand-children? In that verse, God told them and said MULTIPLY! God meant, this kind of friendship, bond and equality between  both of you as first husband and wife, extend it to the generations you will produce after you. If we pay enough attention to the lifestyle of Jesus Christ we shall realize how He demonstrated relationship with people according to the plans of God. He demonstrated perfect relationship that should exist in the society, with the elders, parents, poor, friends and everyone one in His then society.

       The Purpose of Relationship according to God's plan is for SURVIVER and ONENESS. I have what you need, you have what I need, then we come together and fill each other's cup. That is why, human beings are living on the strength of relationship, no man can live alone, I mean isolatedly. You can not isolate yourself from people, you will die. A doctor must relate with food seller because, he will not be able to survive hunger, A Market woman needs people to come to buy something from her, it is not only about the money, but the interaction and communication makes her alive. Man, you think it's only your wife's kiss that makes your day? If yes, imagine yourself drive to the work in the morning, and find out, it was only your car on the highway, nobody on the road, but only you. How do you feel, if nobody talks to you in your place of work in a day.        

          Communication gives strength than food,  when you interact and talk with someone, the person feels alive. Why do you think imprisonment is a purnishment? Because their social interaction is limited and that kills faster than cancer. Have you ever seen anybody who died of hunger? But a man can die of loneliness and isolation. Who can do without interacting with anybody in a day? No body. We survive because we have people around us to say good morning while we drive to work. We survive on the strength of relationship and interaction and that is the purpose of God. God created relationship and interaction to fill the hollow of loneliness and isolation in man. 

   Now, that you understand that, people around you are not just existing for fun, but for you to see and be affected by their daily interactions with you. Will you now cultivate Value for people?