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Anger-A Two-sided Emotion

Emotions generally could be two-sided. Emotions in every human beings are blessings but could turn otherwise if not well understood, tamed and managed.


Emotions are purposely deposited in us by God and understanding the purpose of every kind of emotions present in us as humans, guides us on how to properly exhibit and manage them. Because, "when the purpose of a thing is not defined, abuse is inevitable". 


Anger is an "attributional emotion". It is an emotion that makes humans, humans. It is basically a feeling of displeasure with something (it should be) not someone. We humans inherit this "attributional emotion"-anger from our heavenly father, God.


Anger is beautiful in the context of its purpose. It is fundamentally a displeasure with the wrong, with the intention to make it right. That is why anger is one of the qualities of a good leader. 


Jesus as our perfect example in leadership will never condole anything tagged 'wrong', hence he will frawn at it and make it right. Remember how he flogged out those buying and selling in the temple of God. (Matt. 21:12-13).


Something wrong could be considered good or normal in some societies. But I tell you, however you package a mess, a mess remains a mess.


The purpose of anger therefore is to perceive/feel and deal with 'something wrong' and not 'someone wrong'. We humans need to understand this truth that, no one is wrong, everyone is perfect, we can only do something wrong. The first side of anger deals with wrong attitudes, behaviours or activities portrayed by people and not the people in quote.



The Second Side of Anger
 As discussed above anger is part of the nature of God. Why? Because, all He seeks for is perfection and righteousness. He kindles his anger against anything that negatives these, especially in His image-human beings, in order to make things perfect again.


Howbeit, man mingled with sin and fell. This is the source of this second side of anger in human beings. As long as we are humans, living in flesh, we are naturally born to exhibit this kind of anger. But thank God for the redemption power in the blood of Jesus which unstays (through the help of the Holy Spirit) the Adamic nature of sin from us.


The other side of anger is usually against someone, it is the one that springs out of jealousy,hatred, frustration, argument, malcontentedness, provocation and so on, which God warns us to desist from or tame. Infact, the exhibition of this kind of anger is tagged 'foolishness' in the scripture (Prov. 14:17, Eccl. 7:9).


The example of anger that ensues from jealousy is that of Cain against Abel his brother. Cain killed his brother out of anger because of jealousy (Gen. 3:3-8). When you are suddenly angry with someone, the first thing you should check, is why? If it is out of jealousy, quickly repent because God hates such, in fact there should be no reason whatsoever to be angry with 'the image of God'.


Example of anger that springs out of frustration is that of Moses against the children of Israel. The children of Israel in the wilderness frustrated Moses to the point that he got angry with them and abuse them with words. This really cut God to the heart and Moses was not allowed to enter into the promised land. (Num. 20:10-13).


 Imagine how weighty this thing, anger against people can be in the sight of God! This is why we must be conscious enough to control ourselves whenever we are under pressure and frustration. God will not take any excuse for being abusive against His own image-man (that includes you).


In the process of making things right, we can be provoked to stress our anger beyond the border of God's will, we must be very intentional in this area, too. Any correction or rebuke or reprove that comes with rage, hatred, argument and verbal abuse is no longer of God.


Peace of mind and fulfillment usually accompany the first side of anger but regret, bitterness and restlessness is the of repercussion the second side of anger. 


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