SELFHOOD

I call it identity. The sense of who you are, your personality.

Have you ever taken a stroll around this thought, Identity?

     Let me take your mind back to that occasion where you had to tender your identity card, can you still remember the action of the person you gave it to? I guess, the person would nod his/her in satisfaction, all he/she needed to know about you has been seen on the card. Meaning that your description is all written  on that Identity card.

     Identity! Your identity is the definition of who you are and whatsoever identity you give yourself, whatsoever Identity people see, whatsoever Identity they call or identify you by. 

     The Identity of Man is always Stressed on three manners, They are;

1.Dressing (Your Appearance)

2.Actions (What you do and how you do)

3.Speech (Words you speak and how you utter them)

Dressing (Your Appearance)

It is a common saying in the society that, "Appearance shows the Manner". Anywhere you appear in life, the first thing that place judgement on who you are is your dressing. What you wear. A nurse is identified by her dressing, A lawyer is identified by his dressing and A market woman is also identified by what she wears. A lot  of people from their heart think dressing is  nothing that matters. I tell you,  it is something that matters a lot in the Identity of Man. 

     A lot of people are so nonechalant that they could dress anyhow to anywhere. Many at times it's not even about what you wear but how you wear it. Learn how to put dresses together, especially as youths, you don't dress anyhow in the street. You can wear a very expensive dress and in a wrong manner which tells a lot about you. 

        So, therefore,take a very good note of whatever you put on, don't dress in an implicative manner. Dressings can implicate you when you dress like a fraudster or a thug, if you're not a slot, don't dress like one. Appear in a manner that speaks well about your selfhood.

Actions (What you do and how you do)

It is obvious from our daily experiences in the society that a man can easily be identified by his actions. Whatever men see you do, whatever they will identity you with.      Actions here encompasses your behaviours, attitudes and habits. Truly, every creatures on the surface of the earth are Artists,we act and also every creatures are spectators, we act and at the same time we watch the drama of others and everyone is called and identified by his role. How do you play your role?  When you appear in a distance, what do people say about you? (Don't get it twisted please, what people say about you to a very large extent has nothing to do about who you are. Taking a look at it from another angle, it tells much about who you are.)

     Every actions of Man place a description on him and people will say, "Oh no, he is a good man". And another person will say, " I can vouch for her, she is respectable". If it has not been part of you, let it be from now, mind every of your actions, how you approach and handle people and matters.

Speech (Words you speak and how you utter them)

If speech does not matter in identity, how is it that whenever a man speaks you can rightly decide which language he speaks and where he's from. Words you speak can take you far in life. You can know how to dress, but if you're not perfect in behaviours and don't know how to utter words rightly, your identity will be shattered in dishonour.        A man whose speech does comes with no peace have no place in the place of honour.   A lot of people with their unhealthy words have droven away customers from their businesses, no one wants to partronise who can not comfort in his speech. To keep relationships, you need to let your speech always be seasoned with peace, patience and joy and people will cherish you for that. Good words attract good people in to your life while the other send them on their heels.   Learn to captivate people in your speech, it earns you much respect and polishes your identity even though you're not perfect in dressing, your speech can still raise you.             And lastly, words spoken never die, they are planted and they grow just like seed, so mind what you say to, with and about people.

      Remember, as you watch people, people are also watching you and whatever they see in you, they identify you by. Build a good identity for yourself, make your selfhood desirable.