Relationship as been established by God is a bond of unity and 'socialialisation'. Socialization is the process of social interaction with people. Communication and interaction with one another is that thing called relationship. "Relationship is one of the few meaningful things in life. In it, human needs which include certainty, variety, significance, love/connection, growth and contribution are fulfilled", Simran Kaushik. This saying of Simran Kaushik is what I strongly agree with after a deep meditation on the importance of relationship.
Truly, human beings do not like to be static, we hate to stick to just one thing. To say the fact, it can weary you if all you have and see every day is the same thing, but relationship creates the chance for men to mingle with varieties of people in the society, it gives the chance for you to love and be loved, it makes you feel significant. In relating with people, you learn and grow and it also gives you the opportunity to contribute to the growth and development of the society.
However, the importance of interpersonal relationship and general relationship in the society at large have provided for it some basic principles, if the goal of unity/oneness will be achieved in our societies,the basic principles must be duly noted. Here are the basic principles I have underlined to achieve the goals of relationship;
COMMUNICATION: The soul of every kind of relationship is communication. Communication releases and reliefs the mind of people. It might not necessarily involve taking a longer period to talk or even involving in speech interaction at all. Men communicate through actions, body languages and in words. At times, how you communicate gives people the impression of how they are valued and how much value you place on yourself. In communal relationships, communication through action is very common, when you greet someone by the side of the road, and responded with a frowned face, he might be communicating to you that your greeting is not welcomed. For us to relate well with people in the society, we must take note of how we communicate. Also, communication in relationship is always in two-way, when you talk with someone, either the person talk back to you or not, he or she has communicated.
Tolerance/Acceptance: In our society today, alot of people move around with their own personal issues and I must let you know that, people think and behave differently. Because of this, there is need for tolerance and acceptance in the society. Accept people as they are, tolerate when their lifestyle do not fit your own, we are born to be different. Just understand and bear it in mind that, everybody on earth can not be like you. Tolerate when there is need to and correct whenever you need to.
Trust/Worth/Integrity: The reason why it appears as if there is no trustworthy people in our society anymore is because, we no longer cherish our integrity. Staying pure and undiluted make people to place so much worth on you and see you as a person of integrity. When they see the good traits like, humility, respect in your lifestyle, they place so much worth on your personality. Believe me, if everyone in the society see this truth, it would have been good for us. It is in our generation that the mindset of a person towards another is to rake and reck his account. When you dupe your neighbor today, I am sure he will never trust you with anything again.
Empowerment/Giving: One of the things that build a strong bond in relationship is giving. Giving comes in terms of empowering your neighbour, it is not only by giving money. When you benefit from a thing, let your neighbour also do same, do not eat/enjoy everything alone. Contribute your own ideas to the grow and development of the world. Whatever God had given you is not for you alone. God expect you to share with your family (people in your society). When you are up, don't feel too big to raise people up, because that is why you are there.
Appreciation: Appreciation is an act of celebrating people not because of what they have done for you alone, but also, by honouring and respecting their personalities. Then, when you say 'Thank you', it's an act of appreciating what has been given. Therefore, we need to be conscious of this as we relate with people; appreciation gets people on their wings of happiness. When you appreciate people they become happy and comfortable to stay around you. The opposite of this is condemnation. Do not condemn people, instead appreciate their person, efforts and contributions.
Value: The greatest psychological need of man is the need to be loved, valued and appreciated. Inasmuch as you want others to value you, you need to place value on yourself and value other people who are not you. Value can be communicated in different ways, communicate it the way your own society understands it, don't accept everything and don't try everything with every one. Don't molest people because they are less powerful, don't always feel too big to say Hi, it is a way of saying I value you.
Forgiveness: The key to getting along in the society or wherever you find yourself is forgiveness in advance. Always bear it in mind that, as I'm going out today, somebody might offend me, just forgive the person before you leave home. We move, walk and work with different people, and some people do not even care about your feelings, they can make you feel worse. It is not normal, but just forgive. It is the thing of the mind, so just forgive from your mind and move. Let me show you this fact about forgiveness, when you forgive, you loose yourself from the bondage of horror and emotional torment. Just let it go and move on.
Respect: When you consider people around you before you take actions, then you're communicating respect. Societal relationship relies on respect. It will be easy for you to do good to people, when you respect them, because "Respect is Reciprocal". Simply, do unto others what you want them to do to you. Steal your neighbour's money if you want your own money to be stolen. Kill another person's child if you want your own children to be killed. Respect is weighing the consequences of your own actions on people
Love: It is often said that, "Love is the fulfillment of law". And that is the truth. Lack of love makes one plan evil against his fellow human being, lack of love gives birth to every crises in our society today. If we must build good relationships in our society, we must love every one, no matter their gender, age or tribe. If you want peace, then, show love. Hatred is the root of abuse in our society. See others as being equal to you in nature, love equally. Show love first, don't wait to be loved but show it to a neighbour first and see if you will be loved or not.
If we want a beautiful world, then we must build, through our unimpaired relationship with others. We build the world, we build the nation through effective relationship with people around us.
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