SELF-NEGLECT AND CYNICISM

Self-neglect and Cynicism are a stronghold that destroys one's self-confidence and self-love.

       Self-Neglect is an habitual lack of care for oneself. It an act of neglecting your worth, value and debasing yourself to the lowest. 

       Self-Neglect is the act of not giving yourself enough attention but always busy with people. It is always good to spend more time with yourself than with friends, there you can meditate about yourself. Even though, being amidst crowd does not change anything if you so love yourself , because a lot of people who claim to like a private life are always indoor condemning and being cynical about themselves.

        Now let's examine what we call 'Cynicism'. In my own way, Cynicism is a distrustful act towards oneself and another. When you lack confidence in yourself and you never believe you can do anything right or good, such mentality might be passed to others. Apparently, it is not only about another person, it starts from you. Cynicism is always seeing first, the evil or bad side of everything.

      Two things out of many that ruin self-confidence/confidence and relationships (any kind), even relationship with yourself is Cynicism and Self-neglect. With the two present in your life, you can never have an itch free relationship. That is why it is very expedient that you work on yourself very well before running into a lifetime relationship (Marriage), so that you will not be a victim of circumstances.

        Cynicism is so dangerous that you might not even realize that the whole fault is from you and you will think others are evil. Someone once said "it is easier to conquer the battle from outside than to conquer the battle from your own self". The reason is, you might not be aware that the whole problem is from you.

      However, every human being God created are loaded with precious  gifts, special talents and good things which you can only discover when you spend time with yourself. Discovery of your value and worth makes you to give more time to yourself and that will allow you be confident, positive about yourself and other people around you. But the inability to discover yourself gives way to cynicism.

       A lot of people are found of devaluing themselves before other people in the name of humility. Self-neglect  has nothing to do with humility, the two are not at all synonymous. For instance, if you were asked, can you dance? Instead of answering in a negative ways like "I'm a very poor dancer, but I can try" or I dance, but you can't enjoy my dance". Since it is what you can do, just say "yes I can try" or "yes I can". The question does not say how good? But do you have the ability to and the answer should be yes or no.

       When someone comment goodly on your dress and inside of you, you say "hmm...what if it's a lie, or Oh! do I have a stain on my dress? or did the tailor made a mistake..?" Then you become so uncomfortable with yourself, thinking about things that does not exist and killing yourself. This is a picture of cynicism.

 Cynicism and Self-neglect can kill faster than cancer. Infact, they lead to poor health if care is not taken. But there is a way out. And it is simple, take time to discover yourself and stay positive.