Women and Motherhood

You are who you are and not a mother!

Motherhood is never and can never be your *identity*. Remember, you were somebody even before you got married and somebody before you became a mother. You are who you are and not a mother. Yeah! I mean what I wrote. Motherhood is only a role in your lifetime and not your definition. If all that defines you as a woman is motherhood, you are have missed some steps you need to retrace back as soon as possible.

A woman is a being with many role, even at a time. She could be a wife, a friend, a girl, a cook, a mother, a sister, a house maid, a counselor, even at a time. So, it happens that many young ladies are only preparing to become a good mother in their marriages. That is a totally wrong mindset.

What about being who you are, I mean living in your true identity and prepare to take each role? When you live in your true identity and you believe in yourself, it will be easier for you to take each and every role of your life effectively and successfully, even as a single.

A lot of women have mistaken the common role of a mother to be their identity. They've forgot the other roles of  sweet sixteen, wife, friend, sister etc...Therefore, they behave as a mother to everyone they come across, even their husbands, parents, in-laws, bosses.

They want to pamper, teacher, scold and correct everyone just the way they do their little children. There is nothing wrong is doing these as a woman but everything is wrong when you do these as to your children.

When those little children have now grown... they'd be confused...They want to continue to be that mother who used to pamper, teach, scold and correct but the children would say we're no more babies. When those little children have now grown... She'd be confused...She would want to turn back to her forsaken husband, but he'd reply, I've moved on, since you forgot to be a wife and best friend you used to be before the babies came

 In a nutshell;.

Don't mistake  *roles* in your lifetime to be *who you are*.

This will help you to live effectively and successfully in life and in your marriage.