Vickie's Vibes

        Self-confidence is a thing you consciously cultivate into your life. Self-confidence is a state of believing in one's self. It is being sure of who, what you are and your ability. One of those things that fuels one's self-confidence is self-esteem.       Self-esteem is an act of understanding and living by Self-Worth. Meaning whatever you understand or believe about yourself is whatever you live by. By implication, if you believe nothing good about yourself, you have a low self-esteem and if you so believe in yourself positively, your self-esteem rises.           However, a lot of people believe not in themselves because they think, a neighbour is better of them. It is a No! Whosoever is not you is not better than you, they might have what you don't have, but they also do not have what you have, so, why comparing yourself? You are completely perfect.        Again, Negative thou...

Self-neglect and Cynicism are a stronghold that destroys one's self-confidence and self-love.        Self-Neglect is an habitual lack of care for oneself. It an act of neglecting your worth, value and debasing yourself to the lowest.         Self-Neglect is the act of not giving yourself enough attention but always busy with people. It is always good to spend more time with yourself than with friends, there you can meditate about yourself. Even though, being amidst crowd does not change anything if you so love yourself , because a lot of people who claim to like a private life are always indoor condemning and being cynical about themselves.         Now let's examine what we call 'Cynicism'. In my own way, Cynicism is a distrustful act towards oneself and another. When you lack confidence in yourself and you never believe you can do anything right or good, such mentality might be passed to others. Apparently, it...

 One will ask, how is it possible to date oneself? My dear, it is so possible. How? Just read on, you will understand better.        The first relationship you should establish before seeking for love from anyone is, the one with yourself. This one sound selfish right? No, it doesn't.       Being in love with oneself does not have to do with selfishness at all. Hence it helps to build a selfless relationship with other people. Self love affects every other areas of one's life, it helps to build a healthy relationship with others. Know this that the best gift you can give to yourself and others is LOVE. When you Date Yourself First, you will understand your own self-worth and value, self- care, emotions and you will leave no void for any man to fill. You will be a totally complete person. Self-Worth : Many youths and people generally live their lives as if they don't matter(self neglect: for better understanding on this, re...

Carefulness is the quality of being cautious, thoughtful and mindful. Carefulness is one of the good traits a man must possess.       Carefulness is being Cautious of what you do, how you do everything you do. The most delicate territory is the place called Earth. Living on Earth is just like holding an  egg, if you're not careful it will fall down and break. Meanwhile living on Earth seems to some people a place to be merry and live how they want. Yes,it is always good to do things in your own way, but it must be out of carefulness.        Carefulness is being Thoughtful. This is a careful act of thinking deeply before you do anything. Here you think of the consequences of your actions (good or bad) on people and yourself. A thoughtful man is aware that every of his actions create histories. Histories and Stories that will be read in the future. Therefore, he deliberately creates good histories with every of his actions.    ...

Pretence is an act of presenting a lie as the truth or an act of presenting false in place of truth. Pretence is a game of fools. Because, only the fool will pretend to be what he's not.           Pretence is one of the most dangerous bad traits amidst our youths of today. A lot of them youths will want to be like another person, from their minds ,they want to look more presentable. They sell their personalities to pretence. This act is very dangerous. It is so dangerous that it will hinder your helpers. It is dangerous because, by the time you look back, it would be difficult to open up and still hiding will lead you to shame someday.   Let's take this scenario   A Lady who lives in a face me and I face you apartment has a cup that has a cover, but the cup is dirty. Very dirty but the outside was clean, a neighbour asks is that cup clean? She says yes so that she  wouldn't think she's dirty to have kept a dirty cup. Meanwhile the pers...