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PRETENCE

Pretence is an act of presenting a lie as the truth or an act of presenting false in place of truth. Pretence is a game of fools. Because, only the fool will pretend to be what he's not.           Pretence is one of the most dangerous bad traits amidst our youths of today. A lot of them youths will want to be like another person, from their minds ,they want to look more presentable. They sell their personalities to pretence. This act is very dangerous. It is so dangerous that it will hinder your helpers. It is dangerous because, by the time you look back, it would be difficult to open up and still hiding will lead you to shame someday.   Let's take this scenario   A Lady who lives in a face me and I face you apartment has a cup that has a cover, but the cup is dirty. Very dirty but the outside was clean, a neighbour asks is that cup clean? She says yes so that she  wouldn't think she's dirty to have kept a dirty cup. Meanwhile the pers...

WORDS NEVER DIE

WORDS ARE LIKE SEEDS

NIGERIA MY COUNTRY

DRAMA OF THE WORD

JOY

WORDS LIVE

COWARDS

WORDS ARE LIVING THINGS

Words Live Words are sounds that proceed out of the vocal tract in to the air or atmosphere. One of the most powerful living things is "Words". When words proceed in to the air, they fly around in the air like micro-organisms yet they can't be viewed with a microscope.    Recently, it is scientitifically proven that words do not die. Hence words we speak have a longer life span than our deeds. Spoken words live forever. And I have come to realize that anything, or whatever words a man speak to himself serve as tools to change him positively or negatively. Words motivate, encourage and comfort you.        The most effective words on man are the ones he speak to himself. A man who always remind himself about his weaknesses and say "Man, remember you're weak, you can't get it right." Such man will end up not getting it right.       Again, I've heard some people say words about themselves and others, and the words started working agai...

FAILURE

  One of the most needful and necessary experience in life is failure. One of the most painful experience in life is failure.Wait! Are you confused? No, don't be. Failure is painful but it's inevitable if you must succeed. What then is Failure?         Failure is the experience of not meeting expectations in one's endeavors. It is falling flat from the staircase of success,yet it's the stepping stone to success.         The goal of every man who lays his hands on something is to succeed, but it is not always the case, for, a man can find himself doing the same thing and failing hundreds of times, what a painful experience! It can break the heart into pieces. It's not a thing of joy when you find yourself failing, the reality is that it makes man sad.  At that, is failure evitable in the journey of man? No. The surest inevitable experience in life is failure, but guess what! It brings you closer to your success. Cowards a...

TOLERANCE

It is not always easy when you work or walk with someone whose life pattern is opposite of what you cherish. Sometimes, it chokes. But you gotta do something, you get to tolerate.         Tolerance is willingness to accept the behaviours of others with love, even though, they seems not to fit your belief.         Our society is so flame up with so much hatred and conflicts because of lack of tolerance. We all want to be pleased, we all want everyone to understand us, we want even people we don't know or contacting for the first time to know what we want and what we don't want, and this is very impossible. Your own responsibility is to tolerate, then the respect will come to you.       As a social being, we need to understand this fact as we relate with one another in the society, "human beings are made of different behavioural patterns". We can never be the same and you can never find someone whose behaviours or ways of ...

ANTICIPATION

Anticipation  means waiting excitedly for something to occur or happen. Anticipation has no element of patience, because when you anticipate for something, there is a kind of curiousity attached.       In anticipating for the promises of men, a lot of people have been shattered in the horror of failure. Man can fail and that is the truth. When man promises you to do something for you, or to give you something, he himself is not the owner of that which he promised but God. The surprising part, his life is not even his own, he has no control or say, he doesn't know when he can die.      There was a University Lady, I got to know about her situation when she was in 400L, she had not been paying her school fees since she was admitted, because of her parents' financial constraints. And around the time I got to know her, she traveled to a family friend who promised to give her all or more than she would need to balance up her school fees for her ...

PROCRASTINATION

This I call an aspect of Laziness. Procrastination is an habitual way of posting what ought to be done at the expense of its outcome. It is one of the common bad traits amidst our youths of today. Procrastination is doing the wrong thing at the right time, I mean doing the wrong at time you are supposed to be doing a very important thing.        It is not just an act of postponing your works while sleeping. You might actually be accupied with another thing, but not what ought to be done at the moment. Many of the activities that take time and make someone to procrastinate include, gaming, movie watching,idle talks, social media roaming e.t.c.        When you procrastinate your work to do, you will finally get yourself stocked up at the late hour when you're supposed to be resting. When it is what you must do, you will still meet it at the front. But the danger is, you won't be able to do it as perfectly as it ought to be do...

PLACE OF EVALUATION

 Evaluation is the "determination of the value of a variable or expression." But in the context of this content. I will say, Evaluation is the process or an act of placing worth and value on something. It's rating the value of something, either it's of high or low value. One of the ways a man can improve himself is daily evaluating himself.       Man can evaluate his daily life by putting together all his activities for that day and weigh them in the place of evaluation. Every human being ought to have a place where they evaluate whatever thing they do. There, mistakes are analyzed and corrections are made.        The place of Evaluation is a place in your heart, where you replay all your actions and watch it like a movie and place judgement, just as you do in reality after watching a movie. But this is not a movie, so adjustments can still be made. Growing men are men who evaluate their daily life.       Everything you ...

SEEDS OF JOY

I will say "Joy is a feeling of extreme happiness flowing from the heart on the note of achievements or an acquisition."             The reason for being Joyous might not only be based on achievements and acquisition, but truly the two make man Joyous.        One of the principles of life is "Whatever you sow you shall reap". Here it's a different case. Joy usually is a friut that is bore of many and different seeds. Meaning, you can sow different seeds to reap Joy. You sow love, true friendship, intimacy with God, goodness, hardwork, good works and many other seeds to reap the fruit, Joy.       However, among all the seeds of Joy, our focus is on "Good Works".  From the online English dictionary, the meaning of the word 'Good' as being related to people states "Acting in the interest of what is beneficial". Then I say, Good Works are works or deeds of a man that is beneficial to him and others. Whate...

THE WORLD IS A DRAMA

 In life every one seems to be doing things, people assume that because they are doing something,they are on the stage acting. It is true. How? Drama does not only involve the people on the stage, but also the audience. While involved in  your daily activities, do you say you're acting? Truly, "The world is a stage" as Shakespeare implies in his famous As You Like It  and I wrote in a poem that "The World Is A Drama" . A Drama involves the participators and the spectators (Actors/Actresses and Audience). The picture of the activities of people in this  world is in Drama.   Although everyone seems to be doing something, but apparently, it's not everyone acting on the stage of this world. Some people are just watchers of people acting. How?      When you have not discovered your purpose of existence and you're just involved in anything that comes your way, my dear you're doing something but you're not on the stage, you...

SELFHOOD

I call it identity. The sense of who you are, your personality. Have you ever taken a stroll around this thought, Identity?      Let me take your mind back to that occasion where you had to tender your identity card, can you still remember the action of the person you gave it to? I guess, the person would nod his/her in satisfaction, all he/she needed to know about you has been seen on the card. Meaning that your description is all written  on that Identity card.      Identity! Your identity is the definition of who you are and whatsoever identity you give yourself, whatsoever Identity people see, whatsoever Identity they call or identify you by.       The Identity of Man is always Stressed on three manners, They are; 1.Dressing (Your Appearance) 2.Actions (What you do and how you do) 3.Speech (Words you speak and how you utter them) Dressing (Your Appearance) It is a common saying in the society that, "Appearance shows ...

FIND YOUR MATES

Do you still find your MATE among your MATES?       Your MATE is the picture of who you want to be, Who is really can be your companion. And your MATES are those you flock with. No matter how great the people you flock with today are, they might be just your peers and not mate.  Your ability to find your MATE at the upper level makes you standout. An Eagle as a case study.  It mates  are other birds but it never find it  mate  among others, hence it embraces change and do the unimaginable, it soars. Can you take a shift and see beyond the imagination of your mates and look for your mate at the upper level.        The eagle will never give up and take defeats. It can live up to 70 years but in its 40s, it becomes weary and tired, it feathers are too heavy to carry it on it famous flight and beak bent to fetch its food. Now watch the decision of the eagle. It manages to fly to the mountain top, stays there for 150...

PATIENCE

You mean you're confused? Oh no! It's not this time. This is the time you must summon strength! How do you get strengthened? You get strengthened through the words of God. Patience is an act of waiting. Waiting in this sense might not necessarily mean waiting for something to happen, but it always has a purpose. Patience as one of the fruit of the spirit can not be found in the life of a Christian with a stunted growth, the fullness of it is always found in a grown Child of God. Patience is a Virtue! Your true comfort (The Holy Spirit) comes in patience when it seems you're all confused. Darling, don't be confused, just wait. ALL is going to be well.  Psa 27:14 Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.

MISTAKES

If all you do is that you laugh at people's mistakes, you don't have future. Take time to learn through the mistakes of others. Read mistakes like books, digest it well and bring out lessons.  If you get it right onces at a trial. You're lucky, but you need to check again.

PLEASE YOURSELF

LIMITATIONS

Simply, Limitations are called boundaries. How far you can go. The modal auxiliary "can" is showing ability. So if I say how far you can go, I mean how far your Ability can take you. I will say, A man's limitation  comes with  a  situation when naturally he have the ability to do something, but doing it has a bad effect on him.  In life, everyone has his/her limitations. Limitations here is quite different from weaknesses and so your weaknesses can also limit you.   I know a young man whose friends are drunkards, they drink any kind of drinkable drinks whenever they have the opportunity to, but this young who has discovered his own limitation in that aspect never joins them to drink, despite been their friend. His own boundary is Alcohol. In Essence, to create a boundary for yourself does not always have to do with people you're walking with, it's just about you, your level self determination.  Dear singles, your singlehood is the period to...

A GOOD NAME

"A good name is better than silver and gold", they say. Your name is the description of your personality. Your name truly is that name they call you on your naming day.But in reality, there are good names that traits possessed by you attach to the "Samuel" or "Juliet" you bear. When you remove your father's or husband's name from your name, whatever remains is your real name(personality).       A good name is the name given to you according to your deeds, traits, attitudes and habits. Your parents give you names freely on your naming, but you work to earn good name.         Whatever should matter to man wherever he finds himself is earning a good name and not even fame. Fame without a good name matches down your chance of been favoured. Work for A good name, it earns you Favour.

SEASONS EXPIRE

TIME AND SEASON

Time simply means passing periods, that is, the progressive movement of period. Time is progressive. Time is measured in minutes and hours. Basically, The seasons are the main periods into which a year can be divided and which each have their own typical weather conditions.  Season can also refer to the period during which a particular activity or event takes place. Time and season work pari passu. Season expires in the progression of time, and time swallows up each season.     The life we live as human being is for a season (period of time), and whatever we do here on Earth awaits judgement. Hence, man passes through different stages of life which are marked by seasons. There are five (6) major stages of human life, they are; Infancy, Childhood, Puberty,Adolescence, Early Adulthood, Mid-Adulthood and Late Adulthood. These stages is what I further group in to  four (4) seasons of human life which are; The Infancy/Childhood Stage/Puberty T...

FENCE YOUR WOMB

   The womb is the part of woman's body where babies grow before they are born. Online English Dictionary gives its meaning as "Any cavity CONTAINING and ENVELOPING anything." This implies that, the womb is like an house where treasures are enveloped. A world changer group in Nigeria calls it the woman's womb "The Richest Spot".        The womb is like a building, where destinies can be made or marred. The womb of a woman is a treasury which contains treasures and destinies of unborn generations. But what happens to an unfenced house, the house is opened to every kinds of insurgencies, the armed robbers can break in at any time. Same thing with the womb. When the womb is not secured and well fenced, it will be opened to sexual immorality which is the robber of treasures and great destinies.        The womb is called the "Richest Sport" because, those great people we see in the world today were sometimes bred in the womb of a woman....

LONELINESS(Aloneness)

      To generally discuss Loneliness, I will say , Loneliness is an emotional response to isolation. The vocabulary, Loneliness has different meaning which are as a result of how it's used. It simply means feeling alone. Loneliness is a feeling that you are isolated, though, you might be surrounded by a crowd of people and yet be lonely.       Loneliness according to English Dictionary is"the state of being alone or have no companion." The obsolete or old meaning of Loneliness from English Dictionary is" A desire to be alone ; disposition to solitude."        However, the existentialist school of thought views Loneliness as"The essence of being human." Meaning that, human being came to the world alone ,you move alone with Life , though, surrounded by people but getting along just alone.      Persay,Loneliness is a normative nature of human being. Every human being at a particular stage experiences aloness, but some feel i...

ARE WE FAIR AT ALL?

HABITS

Do you say habit?        There is this Lady that sweeps her room two times every day, she does it in the morning and whenever she wants to go to bed. This particular evening she's tired and said, " I won't sweep this evening". Some minutes to that conclusion, she found herself almost done with the sweeping, she just smiled and continued.          Habit! Habit is an act performed  regularly.These are what you consciously build into your life and you unconsciously continue to do. The lady, didn't know how she picked the broom to sweep until she found herself doing it. In a statement, she's used to doing it. The same way you say, I'm used to reading three hours a day.          What is it about habit? Habit is like building a house,you build habits in to your life the same way,and remove the bad ones, through consistent practice. Whatever you do often becomes your habit. Whatever no body teaches or pushes you to do i...

LET'S TAKE A DANCE

HAPPINESSES

One of the great gifts God has given to mankind is HAPPINESS. It's a kind of feeling that springs out of emotions. It's emotional, meaning it can be tampered with despite the fact that it's a gift from God.        Ones happiness can be touched by pain, anger, constraints around. But, it's a choice to let any of these affect  your happiness. Being happy is a choice, making yourself happy always is a choice you must make by yourself.          Alot of things happen around us that can launch one in to sadness, but it's you that will restrict sadness from penetrating into your heart. In the midst of all that's happening, can you still make the choice to be happy? No matter how lovely is the beat of happiness around you, if you're not happy within, you will find it difficult to harmonize. Happiness is nothing you can hide, it comes with smiles in your heart and on your face. Happiness within you spreads through your dealings with p...

RESPECT

Growing up as a child in the South Western part of Nigeria, I was taught that those who to give respect to are the elders in the society and  best way to respect them is by  kneeling or prostrating to greet them.          But, is that all about Respect? No. So what is the meaning of the word RESPECT? Respect is an attitude of putting people into consideration. Meaning that to respect someone is to bear that person in mind. Are you familiar with the saying that, "the way to a successful relationship is Respect"? Rightly said, but a lot of people limit the meaning of this statement to kneeling and greetings and all that. Respect truly is a sincere act of placing Value on personalities of people, you first. Who then should you Respect? There are two people on earth you must Respect. They are, YOURSELF AND OTHERS.        YOURSELF: It is obvious that a lot of people are missing out in the way of destiny because of the lack of ...

YOU ARE A VIRGIN

You Are A Virgin Many ladies have been battered and shattered in the hollow of pre-marital sex. This has caused many of them to be emotionally paralyzed and found no way out than to continue in the immoral act. The act, pre-marital sex is called "Fornication" . It is a sin against God and it's against the societal morals.        But, the truth is, a lot of them that fell in to the trap were ignorant of the danger. And many who continue in the act are not doing it to satisfy themselves but, to cover up guiltiness(meanwhile, the more they do it, it more guilty they become). They are doing it because they don't have a way out of it.          Dear Young Lady, I want you to know this that, the more you lower your standard to a man, the more you loose your strength and confidence. Oh! You want to argue that? Tell me what you feel from the depth of your heart in the corner of your room after having sex with him. Don't you want him more so that he ca...

PEACE

BLIND DEATH

A myopic thing. You see not far, Can't you see you have no strength? Thy poor strength can only transcend my soul, You can't kill me! You only cause my case to rot  in the hollow of the dust where it was shaped, Blind death, can you not see I'm immortal?

Mistake, Has No Master: Handle It Maturely.

            A popular wise saying of our elders says "when a child falls he looks forward, but when an old man falls he looks back."Mistake!        What is a mistake? Mistake means committing an unintentional error.It is never intentional         Look, take time to ask questions from those who have made it in life, you will be surprised at the silly mistakes they've made in the past.        So, don't see yourself as a failure just because of that slight mistake. All you have to do is, cool down and act maturely.         The difference between the child and the old man is MATURITY, the child doesn't bother, infact If he falls there  a 100time he won't look back, all his focus will be on his rough dress and perhaps the wound he sustained through the fall. And he will say " Oophs! again! Damn it! He's not concerned about what made him fall.       ...

ANXIETY

  Anxiety! Zealousness!Diligence! Sweetheart, I know you have  great visions/missions for this year. But how do you get them achieved? Through anxiety? That's not in anyway possible. Anxiety is an uneasy or distressing desire for something, It is a desire to achieve something,but a pressing one. Pursuing your visions is great, but not out of anxiety.          A zealous pursuit of one's visions takes you to the realm of diligence! Zealousness is the act of being passionate about your vision. And when passion grows, it gives birth to diligence and diligence gives birth to great achievements.         However, Being Anxious is really dangerous, if you will achieve that vision this year, because it keeps you out of the lane! Anxiety keeps you out of the will of God! It can make you appear before your time and that's the most dangerous thing that happen to a man of great vision. Don't be too anxious that you would appear before your ...

It's a Dark Time, But Don't Give Up

Dark Time is a season you must go through in life if you must succeed excellently! Have this to your mind, only the goal pusher goes through the dark times. So, the dark time is the period when it seems void and you feel like you can't continue.         It's a period when it seems you're exhausted, nothing else to be done. But, wait, there's still more to do! This is where the journey begins and this is just a stone's throw to your achievements.        Sweetheart, a lot of people give up at this junction, but seriously, the time is hard. A lot of authors that have written most relevant and voluminous books have gone through the dark hours. There are times they would stare at a blank page and  weep,for it seemed all is over, yet they wouldn't give up, until they have what you love and call  books. Find out how many times the top world researchers have to pause and face the wall.      The  darker it becomes, the greater...

YOU'RE PERFECT

 Is any man perfect? With that question, some might have been pointing their heart to some people who they think are perfect. Don't get it twisted honey! You're the perfect one! Yes, you're perfect! You think everything you admire and perhaps still unable to acquire are those things that complete you? No, You're just perfect and complete as you are. Gen 1:31 God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. The beginning of low self-esteem is thinking your make up is incomplete.God who created you had created you perfectly. So, stop looking down on yourself.  Everything about you makes you perfect! Do not complain, accept the person you are and Love it. Love yourself for who you are for, who you are is perfect!

EVERY TIME COUNTS

        The Value of time is personal to and determined by the user of time. Time therefore is unvaluable  without any reasonable activity attached to it.      Recently, I find it difficult to while away my time. Anytime I feel like to relax or refresh myself, what comes to mind is, "add value to this time". I don't want to in anyway use my time to do what will not benefit me, maybe my health, my spiritual life, my marriage e.t.c. And at the end of the day, I ask my self, what value have I added to my time today, then I began to count what things I've done that day, because, I can't afford to waste my time.        Time is like an empty sheet of paper, it has no value until you write something on it. An empty sheet of paper can cost millions of money and that same sheet of paper can be used to rap corn by the road. Same as the same hours spent frivolously by some people is the same hours some people are being regoriou...

AN EYE FOR GOOD THINGS

Always have an eye for good things. Always stretch your mind to see the goods about your neighbours.No matter how bad a person is, there must be a good thing in the person.          Even devil has his own good traits.He's wise and a good singer. And the Bible tell us as children of God not to be ignorant of his devices, that is, we should acknowledge that he's wise and we should overpower his knowledge with the knowledge of God. I'm not appraising the devil, just telling you that every creature God has created are good.         So, instead of focusing your attention on the bad side of that neighbour of yours, try also to examine his/her good sides. If all you see about others is their flaws something is wrong somewhere.         Some people will sit down for hours and think (not even talk now) about how bad a friend his. When you think about the bads, place the goods beside it also. Before you start to make conclusions abou...