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PRIDE

Pride And Its Family Members Pride is an unruly way of praising yourself.  Pride as explained by my online English Dictionary, it is "an unreasonable conceit of one's own superiority in talents, beauty, wealth, rank etc., which manifests itself in lofty airs, distance, reserve and often contempt of others."     Pride is a thing of the heart, it deals with your motifs, you can ordinarily be speaking good of yourself, but innerly, you are doing it to let them know you are better off. It is a habit that delight in pressing others down while you are praising yourself.      Pride is a habit, a very quiet and good habit that can easily destroy man. Good in the sense that, it makes you see the good sides of yourself, on the other hand, it is quiet in the sense that, you won't know that, as you focus on your own good sides alone you are blind to your bads and goods of others around you. In short, pride is the father of selfishness.     If you ...

Eroticism

Eroticism-eros love is a kind of love that stems from physical love or sensual desire. It involves sexual desire, a sexual emotional affection. Know this that, Love on its on own has nothing to do with eroticism, but in the context of marriage, Eros is an emotional part of love that should be satisfied.    Many of them singles these days take Eros (Emotional Affections) for love, meanwhile they are not in any way related. True love does not stem from eros, but eros from true(agape) love, and that is only proper in the context of marriage.     However, unmarried people naturally have this kind of sexual desire which is natural, as long as you are human being. Eros is an emotional part of love designed by God for MARRIED couples and it is wrong for singles to satisfy such.     The devil on his own has infected the generation of man with this desire before marriage to wind away their concentration with life purpose. No wonder, we have lots of singl...

HOPE, A POSITIVE KIND OF EMOTIONS

Hope is a reaction to positive touch(on your feelings), it is an assurance, a positive assurance of what has not happened. It is a confident reaction that stems from faith. Hope is a by-product of Faith.    Words spoken have the  ability to touch feelings and those words can be positive or negative. They (words) might not necessarily be negative at times, but when not filled with grace, they touch feelings in a negative way that brings fear and anxiety. In essence, what you listen to has the ability to influence your feelings and Emotions.     A lot of people are been tomented by fear not because they are fearful but the negative informations percieved by their feelings breed fear in them. An instance is the recent issue of pandemic spreading across the globe, informations posted about it will definitely kill some people before the pandemic spread to their region.     As earlier mentioned, hope is the by-product of Faith and the Bible says,...

GRATITUDE

  Gratitude is a kind of Emotions which grows out of or a reaction to contentment. Contentment in this sense is been pleased with what you have or what you are given. Gratitude flows out in a serene mode, it is a cool kind of emotion.     When a gift is given to you by someone and you are pleased (contented) with it, the act touches your feelings and the reaction to it is gratitude. Gratitude is not necessarily the words of appreciation you give, (infact, those words can be uttered when you are not really pleased with the situation) it is a kind of emotional reaction that springs up in you, it is often mixed with joy and much pleasure, the external reaction is what can not be buried, the face is full of smiles, because it springs from the deepest place of the heart.     In our societies, even in the Christendom, many people are in the habit of "faking" the experience of this pleasure filled emotion called gratitude. They smile even when it's not from...

HAPPINESS, A POSITIVE EMOTION

This is the kind of Emotion that springs out of perceived feeling of Joy. When the feeling of Joy touches the heart, the outer reaction of it is happiness. Happiness is a reaction to the percieved feeling of Joy.     Joy is a signal of being satisfied and safe. When your heart desires are satisfied, you feel safe and cool and that touch of joy gives you a smiling face. Happiness can heal broken hearts and it gives Strength to the weary. Happiness like other kinds of Emotion is a natural feeling that is beneficial to man's health.      The basic key to happiness is being always happy. The question is, seeing the various challenges encountered on daily bases, is it possible for man to be always happy?      Yes of course, man can keep the positive Emotion on every time, infact it is an antidote to sadness. But, happiness stems from satisfaction. Meaning, if your desires are not satisfied, your Joy can not be full. Know this truth tha...

FEAR, A DANGEROUS EMOTION

Fear is a kind of Emotions which is induced by percieved threat. We are not talking of fear(out of reference) for someone or even phobia. Phobia might not spring up out of awareness of danger, it is basically lack of confidence. Therefore, the kind of fear we are talking about is a strong and unpleasant Emotion that stems from threat or awareness of danger.   For instance, the case of viruses spreading across the globe is threatening danger that push into the heart of majority and breed fear.      Fear is reaction to the percieved feeling of danger. The awareness of the danger of the spreading viruses is a big threat to many.    This also involves a kind of irrational fear, fear of the unknown- being afraid of the unseen future.    The most dangerous kind of Emotions to one's health is fear, fear kills faster than any disease. A fearful or timorous man is a living dead.     The dangers of fear includes premature death and hea...

APPETITE, A KIND OF EMOTION

Appetite is a kind of Emotions. A very strong emotion to that stems from physiological desires.    Appetite is a craving for something, not only food. It is a strong desire to attain or get something. It is simply the "I want to" and "I must" in every human being. Appetite is a natural phenomenon, but when it grows out of control, it is dangerous. How is appetite related to or a kind of Emotions? Remember that, percieved feelings refer to emotions. While craving and longing to get something, there is a kind eagerness, unrest or anxiety that arises in the process, such is a touch one's feelings. This feeling grows as the appetite is unsatisfied and because of the curiosity to be satisfied, appetite can make someone to be desperate to do anything. To have appetite for something is normal, but inability to control it is unhealthy physically and spiritually.     A lot of destinies have been joepardized for lack of emotional control, especially that of ap...

The Proper Approach to Anger

Anger is a natural emotional response to provocation. One of the most common and normal phenomenon of every human being is anger. No one born of human does not get angry, reactions only make the difference.    One dangerous thing about anger is that, if not properly managed or tempered, it can lead to grudges and internal unrest (lack of peace). Anger like every other kinds of emotions needs to be reacted to and not ignored. But it is unhealthy if you let your anger spark.     Reacting to anger is not synonymous to sprouting or flagging your feelings. Many people when they are angry, it immediately shows on every parts of their body, face becomes fierce and every one is immediately aware that they are angry. That kind of reaction is an overreaction and dangerous to one's health. What then is the proper way to to react to anger?     The first information I will like to provide here is that, misreaction and overreaction to anger is a or leads to s...

THE HOLY SPIRIT STRIKES THE BALANCE

The Holy Spirit Strikes The Balance Between Your Life and Your Emotions Now that you are living by the spirit of God, you are no longer a natural man. It is natural for your Emotions to rise in anger if you are abused. It is natural as a man for your Emotions to rise sexually when you see a naked woman. All of these are natural. Because your soul responds to whatever is leading in your Life(Meaning if you are ruled by flesh which devil has access to, then your soul will always respond to negative Emotions). When the body transfers the signal to the soul and the spirit(Holy Spirit) is not there to strike, then the soul accepts and implement the action. In essence, it is the Holy Spirit that creates this balance. If you don't have an intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit, your Emotions will always mess you up. Don't get it wrong, we have positive Emotions created in you by God, but remember that everything has been polluted by devil after the fall of man, so, eve...

SPIRITUAL INTELLIGENCE

The Human Being created by God are tripartite in nature. Life in this perspective is in three form. And that is the tripartite nature of man, the spirit,soul and body . Man is a spirit that has a soul/mind and lives in the body or flesh . So man have three life pattern, a life in the spirit, a life in the soul and a life in the flesh... After that God built the body of man, He breathe (the breath of) Life into his nostrils. At the end Man fell through the sin of disobedience and the Spirit of (God in) man died.(Gen 2:17)"but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die." When God said they would die, he was not referring to the physical body he moulded from the dust, but the Spirit in man, and after that man fell, the spirit of man died (the spirit left their physical body and the physical body was dead to the voice of the spirit).        In the new testament concept, A man who is not bor...

WHEN TO TEMPER YOUR WORDS

To temper words does not mean to keep quiet or be silent. It simply means, being conscious, intentional and considerate in speech making. One of the major challenges of this generation is the inability to meddle words rightly. We often mis talk and over talk in the process of trying to explain or express feelings. A lot of people have missed beautiful relationships (not only romantic relationships) due to been short tempered in words.     Emotional Maturity is weighed by the ability temper words. That is the ability to control your words and meddle it rightly. Get this right, positive words also needs to be tempered.    Well, there are times someone needs to be more conscious with words, in these following situations, we must be conscious of our words; # When you are Emotionally Tensed, please temper your words # When it's time to make a promise # When people are eager to hear from you # When in front of a congregation # When you barely have an idea # Whe...

4 WAYS TO TEMPER YOUR EMOTIONS

Tempering Emotion is really a big deal, a big work and at the same time, easy. Actually, it does not take a day, it is a gradual process, but you must be intentional about it. The following will help you to moderate your Emotions.  #1   React internally before you take it to the external:  To be able achieve this, you need to move closer to yourself, talk to yourself first whenever your feeling is touched, either positively or negatively,the first and the best to do is to move closer to yourself, come to "You". If at all you need to talk, talk it to yourself first. In the name of Emotional expression, you can mistalk. In essence,the first way to react to feeling is not in words to who is not you. How? Any word that comes out of your mouth at the moment of emotional touch might not really be from your heart, and remember that words spoken are like seeds, they grow. So, at the moment, you need to talk to yourself not anybody, and in the process of doin...

EMOTIONAL TEMPER

Emotional Temper is a conscious act of controlling your Emotions. This does not mean you would not perceive the feelings inside of you, infact you have to react to be able to control it. Just like your gas cooker, sometimes you have to light your cooker before you can control the flame to what you want it be like. So also is Emotions.    Emotion is part of every human being, it is an inner you that gets touched with feelings. When some people are touched with feelings either positive or negative, they choose to ignore instead of reacting to it.     Like many people will perceive it, Emotional temper is in many ways far from Emotional ignorance (i.e ignoring your Emotions). Ignoring your feelings does not solve the problem and it's not the same as tempering it. Tempering is gaining influence on your reactions to touch. In short it is the ability to moderate your "reactions" either positive or negative.  Ignoring your Emotions is just like sweeping dir...

THE THING EMOTION

Whenever Emotion is mentioned, what runs through the mind of many is romance or, maybe anger. Can we say that is true? No, it is not. If it is not true, then what is the thing Emotion?    My online English Dictionary defines Emotion this way: "A person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data." In my own words I say, Emotion is an inner sense of every human being. In other words, Emotion is the ability to perceive every single feelings, you might not react to it, but you are internally aware of the touch. It is an evidence of being human.    Every human being is wired to be Emotional (perceive feelings), however, reactions to feelings range from person to person, because we are differently wired, especially the male and female gender. But, the truth is, both male and female are wired to be Emotional.     The part of every human being is Emoti...

25 Templates Of Singlehood

In this context, templates refer to foundational truths about something. In other words, it is the basics, the realities and Principles of something. Therefore, there are basic truths about Singlehood Season. These basic truths might be strange to majority of youths of this generation, but if they can be layed in your hearts, they will help in sailing through the season. # Singlehood is a Season. # Singlehood is a state of being unmarried. # Singlehood Season will expire. # Singlehood with God is the foundation and stepping stone to success. # The best Season to create intimacy with the Holy Spirit (God) is the Singlehood. # Singlehood is a Season to spread the gospel of Christ. # Success in every other Seasons of life is dependent on the lifestyle led in the Singlehood. # Learning is easy during the Singlehood Season. # Singlehood is a Season to learn the life lessons. # Singlehood is a Season to learn self-control. # Singlehood is a Season to know yourself (Self-Study). #...

SINGLEHOOD IS A SEASON TO MAN YOUR POST

 Outrightly after wedding, you are still in your post, but you concentrate more when it is you alone and it doesn't mean you can't do better in your marriage, it depends on your marital choice. If you marry right, marriage is an institution to do more.        Every Singles are expected to be doing something before going into marriage, like Adam. Adam was already busy with his assignments, he was keeping and taking care of the garden. Likewise, singles of this generation, the plan of God for us is not for us to stay idle while waiting for marriage. You must have something, a job or business and work for God (in line with the purpose of God for your life).         Many singles(Females especially) in their Singlehood Season are busy waiting for a spouse and mourning their Singlehood, waiting for a spouse that will get them job or establish a business for them. This is not right with the plan of God. The plan of God is that you are es...

SINGLEHOOD IS THE SEASON TO FIND YOUR PURPOSE

Singlehood Is The Season To Find Your Purpose   One of the major purpose why Singlehood is designed is for seeking and Knowing purpose. Every human being on earth have reasons and purpose why God created them. God is full of wisdom than to create man for idleness. God has called every one from their womb to particular professions(I don't mean job or career). And majority of those that miss it on earth, miss it because they could not find their purpose maybe at the appropriate time or at all.         Finding your purpose on earth has to do with your level of relationship with God. Before you can know a man's heart, you must first know Him. Before you can know the mind of God for you, you must grow an intimate relationship with Him first. Adam the first man God created had a very close relationship with God, every cool of the evening God would visit him like a man visits his friend, it was during this visitations and conversations between God and Adam ...

SINGLEHOOD IS A SEASON TO CREATE INTIMACY WITH GOD

Singlehood is a season deliberately designed by God since the creation of human being. In the beginning, God had it in mind to create Eve, but He wanted to demonstrate the procedure to man. God works by Principles and Rules, He works with Guidelines. And His plan was, Man should know and love Him first before loving another thing or person.         God intentionally created Adam before He made Him a wife, He wanted to demonstrate for us the essence of Singlehood, therefore when Adam was single, he was closely intimated with God. There was a kind of unbroken relationship, a Communion between Adam and Eve, him and God would talk and discuss just like friends. He was found of God and God too was found of Him, they were so in love with each other.  It was God and Adam alone.        He was lost in Loving God that He did not even know if he needed to get marry, but God knew His needs. And after God saw that, this single...

SINGLEHOOD IS THE FOUNDATIONAL SEASON

Singlehood Season is like an opportunity, when lost, it can never be regained. Even though you quit your marriage, it is not the same, you can never be like the way you used to be when you were yet unmarried.       There is never any building without a foundation and we have various kinds of foundations. The structure of a building determines the kind of foundation that would be layed for it. The way we lay the foundation of a bungalow is different from how that of a five or six or more story building would be layed. It is impossible to lay a foundation for one floor building and later build a three floor building on it, if tried, the house would collapse.  How STRONG the foundation you layed for your life during this Season of Singlehood determines how WELL your life would be in the later Seasons.        It is however essential for singles to understand that, the period to lay the foundation for their destiny is a limited period, the...

SINGLEHOOD IS A SEASON

Singlehood Is A Season In Your Lifetime Singlehood is a state of being single, a state of not being entangled or married. The singlehood season is a period while you are yet unmarried and waiting for marriage.        In our various societies, especially in this present generation, we hold on to lots of erroneous beliefs about singlehood. We believe that the singlehood is a period to flex and enjoy ourselves, we say it's a period of freedom to do whatever we like, it is a period to mesmerize. Well, while all these are good and fact, they are not all true and what God has designed the period for. What then are the truths about singlehood?     Singlehood is a "Season" Just as we have the raining season and all other seasons in the year, also singlehood is a season. It is impossible for rain to fall round the year in this Country Nigeria for instance, it rains for a season and it stops. Singlehood just like season is for a period of time, it ends on...

THE WORD OF GOD

The Number One Secret to Success Knowing how beautiful the City of Success is and how rough and unstraight the road is, we can conclude that getting up there is never an easy task. But I've got a secret that can make the way so straight and smooth.       God! Make God your number one and delight in His words is the secret. The only way to live a successful and prosperous life all through is to delight in the word of God. The Secrets and Misteries of Success can only be discovered through meditation on the word of God. When we  Meditate on the word of God, everything we lay our hands on becomes prosperous. How? Because, in the words are misteries of prosperity unfolded.       The children of Israel on their way to Cannan ( There City of Success), God gave them the Secret to journey through, this He told Joshua "Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything wr...

CONSISTENCY

Consistency means to stick to doing something regularly.     The only bridge between failure and success is consistency. No matter how prepared, on the road to success, there are times a man would be broken down in the arms of failure. And in that case what do you do?  You jerk up and do it again. Doing it again and again, when you are getting it right or not is consistency.      Consistency makes whatever you do real to you. It makes it part of you, in fact it builds your passion. No man succeeds while getting tired of doing it again.       If you're a businessman, the more consistent you are in doing the business, the more popular and successful you become in the business. And if you're a professional, the more consistent you practice what you do, the more you develop, the more experience you have, the more you become popular and successful.    Consistency builds your passion for whatever you do and takes you to the Ci...

PASSION-THE SOUL OF SUCCESS

Success is the destiny of everything human being God has created. He wants us to succeed in every of our endeavours. Man does not experience success in business or career alone, we are born to succeed in all spheres of our lives,we are born to succeed academically, maritally, spiritually and in all other ways.      But can a man succeed in anyway without passion? No way! No one can succeed without developing passion for success in whatever he does. Passion to Success is like fuel to vehicle. When fuel finishes, the vehicle stops moving, so also when the passion of a man fizzles, it places a stop on his success.        When you develop an undying passion for something, the passion fuels your desire to succeed in it and no matter how difficult or unstraight the road might look, you keep going because of the passion. The proof of passion is pursuit.   Passion gives birth to commitment. When you are passionate about doing something, it wou...

PREPAREDNESS

Getting ready, is an act of been prepared. A man once said " To market yourself before being prepared is a call to death". Preparedness or a man's preparation before launching out determines how far he would go in whatever he lays his hands on. It is planning for the future, it is building a solid foundation that can stand any kind of trials, the wind blows,  rain falls and the foundation would still be strong.       Before we lay hands on any course, or business, we must take time to prepare, because to a large extent, it determines the Success. As it is impossible for a student to write examination without preparation and pass excellently, so also it is impossible to succeed excellently without preparation.        Preparedness is act of counting the cost. There is always a price to pay, if you must be great in life. So, before you rush out, know what it takes, don't rush out and run back. Many people make this mistake, because anothe...

GET WISDOM

 I will define it as this, "Wisdom is amount of Life Misteries/Secrets a man is able to internalize." Getting to the top is not a child's play. It is a misterious journey. Although man needs to work, but, is it every man who works hard make it in life? No! It means there are deep secrets to wealth and success.         The deep secrets of success are what I call wisdom. Wisdom are so mystical that you have to seek understanding on it.No man can succeed exceedingly without wisdom, without the deep secrets of success. It is high time we come to the understanding that, life, this life we live in is governed by mysteries, so also the Success realm (The City of Success). So, on your road to success, little wisdom is required but when you get to that City of Success, the only thing or element you use to maintain your place is the wisdom. (Secrets you know about success is what sustain you in your successful positions). "Forsake not Wisdom, and she will ke...

THE POWER OF KNOWLEDGE

It is a popular saying that "knowledge is power". This is a true and in fact, powerful than power, because a man can have power and be ignorant of how to use it, but if only what you have is knowledge, it fetches you power and strength to fight and get along especially on the road to success.     Let's examine this scenario, If I was to travel to a particular place I had been hearing about, but didn't know the direction to that particular place. I would become so worried that how would I reach this place, and I must be there, the worse part of the story is that nobody around me also knew the direction. But suddenly I met an old man who said he knew the place, and gave me the direction. The first thing that would happen to me is peace of mind, I would experience a kind of peace and assurance that, I would surely get to the place. With the knowledge gotten from that old man, I set forth my journey with peace of mind and confidence.    The most powerful...

THE SUCCESS CITY

The Success City is where successful people live in. This city is not actually a geographical location but 'A realm'.  The highest realm of achievement is called The Success City. This is where every human being is destined to live in and so because of her beauty, everyone craves to live in the city.     Making an abode for yourself in this City takes work (this includes the work of your hand, the favour, mercy and grace of God). One mystery about the city is that it's built with your works while yet on your way, and until the work is done you can't reach the city. Unlike the physical location where you can easily rent an apartment for yourself to stay, this City has no apartment for rent, until your own apartment is built in there, you cannot live in the city.       This City is on the mountain top of life where you are visible to all, even people who never knew you. Living on this mountain is the most difficult thing. No wonder some people's h...

GOD IS THE SOURCE OF YOUR DREAMS

God is the creator of Heaven and the earth. Meaning that, whatever on earth good are works of His hands. The source every thing good on earth is God. If God is the source of everything good, it means all those good dreams in your heart are from God.The designer of our thoughts is God, therefore He knows how all the things He has designed would come to reality.    A lot of people struggle these days on their roads to success, they labour and sweat it yet, success never find them. Really it's not because they didn't take actions or they are not diligent, but they have not acknowledged the source of their Dreams.    Nobody can know how to handle a thing more than the creator, no human being can successfully achieve his dreams and destiny in life without God the creator of the destiny. God is the source, He knows better than us, He created us, He has plans for whatever Dreams He plants in our hearts.     How can we know His plans when we are fa...